Parenthood can seriously rock a marriage. From having time to plan special things for each other, you become consumed with taking care of the kids and have nothing left for each other by the end of the day. Below I share 6 ways to bring connection back into your marriage so that you can show your kids what marriage should really be like so that they know what to look for and expect when it’s time for them to walk down the aisle. Make sure you read through the whole thing to receive 3 BONUS ways to reconnect!
Here are 6 ways to reconnect with your husband!
We're all better versions of ourselves when we have our needs met. What does self care look like to you? It could be following a morning routine, taking a walk, exercising. Do what you gotta do to feel your best! We can't give much away if we're running on empty.
At the minimum, you should treat him like a friend. When you're fighting, try this practice:...
So you’re ready to manifest a happy and healthy marriage? That’s A-MAZING!
Before I share the affirmations, I’m guessing some of you don’t know what to do with affirmations. If that’s you, then here is Affirmations 101.
Affirmations are statements that you’d LIKE to be true, but isn’t just yet.
I am a patient mom
I am confident.
I prioritize my self care so that I can be a better version of myself.
I listen with understanding.
I am a successful CEO of a company of 5,000 employees.
You get the gist!
This practice allows you to become focused on what you want. It puts your energy into your end goal which is to improve your marriage rather than focus on the issues. Think about how much better you feel when you think of the potential of something improving over going on a rant about how life sucks. For example: focusing on having a marriage based on connection rather than why your...
Whenever people have issues, the first thing people recommend is to talk about it with their husband. What if you’re done talking because it feels like they just don’t listen? What if talking to them is the LAST thing you want to do right now? Maybe if you talk to them your head will explode or your words will shoot out of your mouth like bullets.
The first step is to start focusing on what you want (a happy and healthy marriage) rather than what you don’t want. If you put your energy on what you hate, you can easily stay stuck in a negative mindset that your marriage won’t get better. Guess what? If that’s what you believe, then you’re right. It won’t! Try focusing on what IS going right and what you want.
For example, being a millionaire requires a different way of thinking than a poor person might think. The wealthy think about how to use what they have (money) to create more of what...
I think we all agree that holidays are crazy as it is. Holidays with a blended family though…that’s another beast. It’s like a multiplier for all things that can go wrong with all the logistics and flexibility needed.
We have my older son at our house every other week (50/50). During the year, we’re able to schedule things so that he’s included in the big events as much as possible. Even with us trying our best, he’s bound to be left out in something. That’s life as a child who goes back and forth. It sucks.
The arrangement my husband and my son’s mom have is to rotate holidays. It’s not ideal, but it’s fair and gives our son a set expectation of where he’ll be any given year.
ODD YEARS - He spends Thanksgiving and Christmas Eve with his dad’s side and Halloween and Christmas are spent with his mom’s side
EVEN YEARS - He spends Halloween and Christmas with his dad’s side and...
You’ve all heard it before, when you get married, you are not only marrying your spouse, you are also marrying their family. I have heard from so many people that their relationship with their in laws is challenging. They don’t respect you, they are nosy, they think they know what’s best for you, the list goes on and on. Obviously you love your spouse and you don’t want to disrespect their parents, but you also don’t want to be a doormat or dread spending time with them. So what can you do? Set healthy boundaries!
When you hear the word “boundaries”, do you immediately think of it as selfish? I don’t know about you, but at an early age, I learned that I need to accommodate other people and that my own feelings were secondary, because prioritizing myself was selfish. I need to be more considerate, more flexible, basically more of a people pleaser and less of me. Well, setting boundaries is not selfish. It’s actually another form...
So...you’re married now! Hooray! Cue the rainbows, sunshine and confetti!
Except...now it’s holiday time and you have to decide whose side you’ll be spending time with. You don’t want to split up, but you’d rather go to your own family (or not). What should you do?
Whatever you decide, you’re going to disappoint someone so the best thing to do is to make sure you and your spouse are on the same page.
To help you navigate the trickiness of marrying each other’s family, here are 4 things you two should discuss before showing up to the holiday get-togethers!
If your family events are reasonably close to each other, this could look like showing up to both events by cutting your time at each event short so you two can make an appearance.
If it’s not logistically possible to go to both events, then it might be best to alternate which holidays you spend with each side. For example: odd years are with...
Did you know we have 60,000 thoughts each and every day? If you were to stop and count how many times you were critical of yourself, would that be greater or less than the number of times you were kind to yourself?
I recently learned about the world of positive affirmations. Affirmations can be as simple as “I am patient” to something more complex like “I am a badass coach with a waiting list of ideal clients who would love to work with me” or “I am debt free and I travel 4x a year.”
If reading that was a little painful for you, I get it. I used to think this stuff was weird too. Saying things doesn’t mean they’ll come true. But, saying these things has shifted my perspective and my self love so much. Every morning, I write 3 positive affirmations and 3 things I’m grateful for. I went from thinking that this stuff was for people who had their head in the clouds, to being a true believer of it.
Ever since I started this practice,...
I came across this quote recently and it totally got to me. This statement is 1,000,000,000% true. It’s like the modern version of Albert Einstein’s saying, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.”
Have you ever asked yourself why things turn out the same way over and over again? Let’s say you had an argument with your spouse. Maybe you yell, criticize or give them silent treatment. After all is said and done, you are just sick and tired of this endless cycle. Does this sound like you? Try approaching things differently.
Let’s say you have tried to do things differently but you go on auto-pilot when you’re in a conflict and have a hard time restraining yourself. Me too. Old habits die hard. These habits have a name…
The unconscious kind of behavior we don’t actively choose to do, the kind that just comes out when we’re triggered....
Did you know there are couples out there that don’t fight? I’m telling you, it’s possible. Now, don’t think my marriage is perfect, but my husband and I for real do not fight! We do have disagreements that we talk about and our marriage gets stronger because of them.
What I’ve noticed is that when a lot of couples disagree, it’s because they feel hurt and they’re trying to get back at their spouse for causing them pain. Does that sound familiar to you?
Imagine if a young kid got a toy taken away by another kid, would you encourage them to get the other kid back by doing the same thing or worse? Of course not, right? So then, why do people go the petty route instead of actually being real with themselves about why they feel hurt and then find a solution together?
Because it’s hard. It’s painful. We live in a society where they say strong is putting up a front that nothing affects us. But is that really true? Is it...
Do you ever feel like you and your spouse speak two different languages?? Well, I’m here to tell you, you’re probably right! You two may have completely different love languages! What in the heck is a love language you ask? It’s what each of us needs in order to FEEL loved. Your definition of what it means to feel loved and appreciated can be the exact opposite of your spouse’s.
Picture this scenario, you just want your husband to shower you with attention and take you out on dates. Since he’s not doing that, you start thinking that he must not love you enough to do that and you end up planning the dates. From his perspective, he just wants you to help him feel less stressed at home by keeping the house organized and tidy. Since you’re not doing that, he feels like you don’t love him enough to clean up and he sacrifices his free time to take care of chores on the weekends. What happens next? You’re upset that...