The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast: Your New Year Resolutions Can Wait

 

 

As we kick off the new year, I wanted to share a little insight on how we can approach this time differently. We often hear the buzz about setting goals and achieving big things as soon as January hits, but let's consider a different perspective.

Embracing the Season

You know that feeling of being pushed into a whirlwind of resolutions every January? Lose weight, get fit, conquer the world—all before February! It's this intense rush to achieve. But have you ever thought that maybe, just maybe, the struggle to stick to these goals is because we're fighting against the natural rhythm of the seasons? In nature, winter is a time for hibernation and reflection, not a sprint to the finish line. Animals and plants slow down, so why are we trying to speed up?

Finding Balance in Winter

Sure, not all of us can hibernate like a bear, but there are ways to slow down and align with the season. Winter is perfect for taking a breather, reflecting on the past, and...

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The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast: Creating A Better Marriage For 2025 and Beyond

 

 

As we approach the New Year, it's a perfect time to consider how we want to transform the coming year into one of growth—not just personally, but also within our marriages and family life. Let's take a moment to reflect, set intentions, and create the life we envision for ourselves in 2025. Here’s a friendly guide on how to embark on this journey.

Reflecting on the Past Year

The first step is all about reflection. What went well this year? Were there improvements in your personal life, your role as a mom, or within your marriage? Recognizing positive changes, even small ones, can be encouraging. It might be as simple as appreciating fewer arguments or better communication. On the flip side, acknowledging where we felt stuck or disconnected helps us identify what we want to change. This awareness is the foundation for growth.

Crafting a Vision

Having a clear vision for what you want in 2025 is crucial. Without it, we drift aimlessly, making decisions...

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The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast - Signs Communication In Your Marriage Is Improving (And When To Get Help)

 

How to Know if Your Communication is Improving in Marriage (and When to Get Help)

Let’s talk about something most of us aren’t naturally taught: healthy communication. Unless your parents modeled it, or you sought out resources, communication skills are often learned through trial and error. But here’s the good news—improving your communication doesn’t have to feel overwhelming, and it’s not about perfection. It’s about progress.

In this episode, I’ll guide you through recognizing signs of improvement in your communication with your spouse and knowing when it’s time to seek outside help to take things to the next level.

Why Communication Feels So Hard

For many of us, communication struggles are a learned pattern. Growing up, we absorb how our family handles conflict—whether it’s yelling, avoiding tough topics, or shutting down. Without a strong foundation, you end up figuring things out on your own....

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The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast: Keeping Your Marriage Strong After Kids

 

Navigating Motherhood and Marriage: Finding Balance and Harmony

Motherhood and marriage are two beautiful yet challenging paths that many of us juggle simultaneously. As you embark on this journey, it's easy to feel overwhelmed, isolated, and sometimes even stuck. The good news? You're not alone, and there are ways to navigate these waters without feeling like you're losing yourself or your relationship.

Let's dive into what we can do to make motherhood less overwhelming and keep our marriages thriving, even amidst the chaos. Here's what my guest, Hazel Walker and I explored in this episode.

Embracing the Reality of Motherhood

As we become mothers, the sheer joy and responsibility can be overwhelming. It's common to feel like you're losing a piece of yourself as you try to balance being a mom, a partner, and your own person. The trick is to take some time to reconnect with who you are beyond the titles of 'mom' and 'wife.' It's about rediscovering your likes, passions,...

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The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast: From Disconnected To Intimate

 

In this episode, I am joined by Mitch Blackford, a coach specializing in helping moms navigate the complex transition of motherhood and marriage, to talk about how you can go from roommate to romance.

Understanding the Challenges of Motherhood

Motherhood undeniably transforms a woman's life, presenting unique challenges that often lead to feelings of disconnection and overwhelm. Mitch shared her personal journey, highlighting how transitioning from woman to mom can strain a marriage. This transition often leaves women feeling "touched out" and emotionally drained, leading many to place their intimate relationships on the back burner.

The Importance of Intimacy

One of the primary discussions revolved around the critical topic of intimacy — and how motherhood can often make it seem like a distant concept. Mitch emphasized the commonality of feeling emotionally and physically exhausted, which can cause women to shy away from intimate connections, even though it's a...

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The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast: The Two Must Haves For A Happy Marriage

 

Marriage and motherhood can be challenging, but achieving growth and improvement doesn't have to be complicated. Sometimes, simple, foundational steps can lead to remarkable changes. Here, we're going to discuss a transformative two-step process that can rejuvenate your marriage, streamline your life, and help you become the parent you aspire to be.

Step 1: Establish a Vision

One of the fundamental questions I ask anyone considering working with me is: "What is it that you are wanting?" Many people struggle to articulate their desires, often focusing on what they don't want rather than what they do want. But without a clear vision, it's nearly impossible to see progress.

Your vision is not about psychic abilities but a crystal-clear picture of the future you desire. It includes every facet of life—your marriage, your parenthood journey, your personal development, your relationships, and your career goals. Having this vision simplifies decision-making. Anytime you're...

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The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast: Is Love Enough?

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Is Love Enough to Sustain a Marriage After Kids?

Welcome back to another episode of the Marriage and Motherhood Podcast! In this episode, we explore whether love is enough to keep a marriage strong after kids.

The Shift: From Partners to Parents

When love leads to marriage, it often stems from the deep affection couples have for each other. But once you become parents, life changes drastically. You now face new responsibilities, time constraints, and a significant shift in your relationship dynamics. The priorities shift from each other to the children, leading many to wonder, "Where does our relationship go from here?"

Unspoken Assumptions and Overlooked Needs

It's easy to fall into the trap of assuming love will conquer all challenges. However, once kids enter the picture, love often turns implied rather than demonstrated. The acts of love shift to task-based activities: feeding the kids, handling household chores, and managing schedules. While love fuels these...

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The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast: Does Sleeping Separately Lead To Divorce?

Welcome back to another episode of The Marriage and Motherhood Podcast. This topic was inspired by a post I stumbled on in a Facebook group. A woman was asking if sleeping in separate rooms would hurt the marriage. 

Rest or Romance?

A woman in the group shared her problem: she and her husband have trouble sleeping together due to conflicting sleep habits. From taking up too much space to noisy disturbances. Although they have a fantastic relationship outside the bedroom, the poor sleep quality was leading to resentment.

Her main concern? Social norms. The idea of sleeping in separate rooms seemed drastic, and she wondered if it would drive them toward divorce.

Challenging Social Norms

If you’ve been following along with my content, you know that I’m an advocate for challenging social norms. Every marriage is unique, and what works for one couple might not work for another. The concept of following societal expectations blindly can often hinder...

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The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast: Handling Pressures & Overwhelm Of Motherhood In Your Marriage

 

The Changing Dynamics

If you reflect on your pre-kid era, you'll likely notice just how much your marriage has transformed. Pre-kids life was simpler. You could plan spontaneous trips, enjoy quiet dinners, and had flexibility that parenthood quickly consumes. But, when kids come into the picture, their needs and schedules take precedence. This fundamental shift can place significant strain on a marriage.

 

The Overwhelm of Raising Kids

The pressures and overwhelming responsibilities of parenthood often catch us off-guard. From ensuring we meet their basic needs to managing tantrums and navigating school schedules, every aspect of life requires meticulous planning. It's no longer about just the two of you but about balancing a child's needs with maintaining marital harmony.

 

Shifting Roles and Added Responsibilities

Becoming parents introduces 'Mom' and 'Dad' roles. This added layer of responsibility can alter how we perceive and interact with our partners....

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The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast: How Self Care Is The KEY To Happy Marriages

 

Welcome back to another episode of the Marriage and Mother podcast! This is part two of the series "What I Wish I Knew Before Becoming a Parent," designed to support aspiring and current parents with as much knowledge as possible to set them up for success.

The Realities of Self-Care

Last episode, we delved into the evolving dynamic of partnership and how to navigate those changes. Today, we'll be focusing on self-care. Self-care is vastly underrated.

At the very core of our life experiences — as women, partners, mothers, daughters, friends, business owners, or any of the myriad roles we play — self-care is pivotal. If we don't take care of ourselves, every facet of our lives can suffer. Imagine walking around with a baseline feeling of 15 on a scale from 0 to 100, where 100 is the best possible state of being. It's like living in a world where you're perpetually cranky, a lens that taints every experience negatively.

Reframing Self-Care

Just like the...

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