The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast: How Hobbies Can Make You Happier In Motherhood
Rediscovering You: The Power of Hobbies for Moms
Motherhood, while fulfilling, can sometimes feel like an all-consuming role that leaves us wondering about our own identities. As we dive deep into nurturing our kids and managing our households, it's easy to lose sight of who we are beyond being moms. That's why in this episode, we're delving into the transformative power of hobbies and how they can help us reclaim an essential part of our identities with Erin & Tam of The Art of Hobbyness Podcast.
Why Hobbies Matter
Let's face it, we often put ourselves on the back burner, thinking we'll have time for personal pursuits once the kids are older. But the truth is, our lives won't magically make room for "me-time" unless we consciously carve it out. Hobbies aren't just frivolous pastimes; they're vital to maintaining our mental health and personal identity. They provide an outlet for self-care, creative expression, and just plain fun—elements we deeply need to bring balance to the pressures of everyday life.
Finding Your Hobby
Finding a hobby that's right for you might seem daunting, especially when you're managing the chaos and joy of parenting. Start small. Take a 20-minute walk and see if that refreshes you. Remember, a hobby should bring you joy for its own sake, and not be tied to achieving a specific goal or impressing anyone else. It's about exploring new interests without the pressure of perfectionism.
Sometimes, it helps to experiment and explore different activities. Whether it's skateboarding, knitting, or even playing piano, the essence of a hobby is personal enjoyment. Keep in mind, it's perfectly okay to try something and decide it's not for you. That's part of the process!
Overcoming Guilt and Prioritizing Yourself
As mothers, we're often plagued by "mom guilt," feeling like any time we spend on ourselves is time taken away from our family. It's important to acknowledge this feeling but not let it control you. Time spent on hobbies can actually make you a better parent and partner by reducing stress and increasing your overall happiness. Enlist your partner's support in protecting this time and remember that engaging in a fulfilling hobby sets a powerful example for your children on the importance of self-care.
Creating a Routine
Consistency is key. Just like planning a doctor's appointment or your child’s birthday party, schedule your hobby time in advance and fiercely protect it. Treat it as a non-negotiable commitment and communicate your needs clearly with your partner and family. They’ll likely appreciate the vibrant and relaxed version of yourself that comes from investing time in purely personal interests.
The Joy of Rediscovery
By welcoming hobbies into your life, you aren't just adding something new to your daily routine—you're rediscovering parts of yourself that have been quiet too long. So, start small, try new things, and let yourself enjoy the freedom that comes with being a beginner. Remember, it's not about mastery; it's about joy. You're not just surviving motherhood—you're thriving, and your kids, partner, and most importantly, you, will be better off for it. Reach out to friends, find a hobby buddy, or even check out resources online to start this new chapter. Embrace the journey—one hobby at a time.