Things weren’t always this hard.

Before kids, connection felt easier. Conversation flowed. You felt like a team.
Now, between parenting, logistics, and exhaustion, your relationship feels… thin.

Communication feels harder than it should.
Connection feels inconsistent or nonexistent.
And outside of co-parenting, it can feel like you’re just roommates sharing a house and a calendar.

After the kids are in bed, you’re both depleted — scrolling, zoning out, or doing your own thing.
Quality time is rare. Flirting feels awkward or forced.
The closeness you once had feels far away.

If this sounds familiar, nothing is wrong with you or your marriage.

This is a very common season for couples — especially parents — and it doesn’t mean you’ve failed or fallen out of love.

You know you care about each other… but something isn’t working

You’ve tried talking it out.
You’ve taken advice from friends.
Maybe you’ve even tried counseling.

And while some things may have helped in the moment, the same patterns keep showing up — disconnection, frustration, unresolved conflict, resentment you don’t quite know what to do with.

At some point, it becomes clear that trying harder isn’t the answer.

What’s needed is a different kind of support — one that helps you understand why these patterns are happening and how to shift them in a way that actually lasts.

This is where coaching comes in.

Marriage coaching isn’t about blaming either of you or rehashing the past endlessly.

It’s about helping you:

Understand your patterns without shame

Communicate more clearly and calmly

Navigate conflict without it spiraling

Rebuild emotional and physical connection

Feel like partners again — not just co-parents

Whether you’re feeling disconnected, stuck in repetitive arguments, or simply longing for more closeness and ease, there is a way forward.

If you’re ready to move into the next stage of your marriage — one where you feel like teammates, friends, and lovers — I’d love to support you

Here's the tea...

Change starts at the individual level and growing up, we are taught that other people are responsible for our happiness.

Maybe you've seen your parents do that?

I grew up believing this too, it's not your fault.

If you believe this, it's hurting your marriage.

When we believe that others are responsible for our own happiness, we start to wait for the other person to change and we grow resentful.

And resentment is the #1 connection killer.

This is where my approach is different.

I believe that growth in the marriage happens on the individual level.

When you work on your own personal growth and become the wife your marriage deserves instead of deciding what you will or won't do out of spite, that's when real change can happen.

This applies to your husband too! This is why in my couples coaching program, I have dedicated sessions for each of you as well as you two as a couple so that everyone has the space to feel seen, heard, understood and supported.

• be your own source of joy
• understand and embrace your emotions
• clearly communicate your needs
• respond vs react during conflict
• set healthy boundaries
• use conflict to GROW the connection in your marriage
• be the partner you each need
• keep the excitement alive

These are all the essential skills behind every healthy and successful marriage.

This may all sound like it's too good to be true, but it's not and my clients can vouch for it.

"My marriage took a 180 degree turn and it didn't even take long! I had tried searching online for motivational quotes, passages, online couples therapy, individual therapy and had asked for support from my closest friends and family. But I just wasn't seeing any changes. After working with Michelle, I feel like I can handle life better. Arguments aren't as detrimental. My husband is more relaxed. He is joking around more and being himself more (the guy I was attracted to while dating). We are laughing together, having fun & enjoying each other's company. We can be the happy, playful, loving couple I wanted us to be. I appreciate Michelle so much and so do my friends and family!"
- Dani E.

"You really helped us and I'm so grateful that we found you. We had continually reached scary low points in our relationship and its stability. We were unable to talk about serious things and agree on what changes we needed to make. Since working together, I am more aware of the roadblocks that kept us from addressing conflict and it's much more clear what we each need and how we need it. Things are much better. I enjoyed that you kept us moving in the right direction at all times. You listened really well, but didn't let us go too far down a dark road that we would normally have gone down. You steered us towards the light. Now we are able to diffuse conflict before it blows up."
- Mike M.

"We previously worked with a marriage counselor and she never cut through to our issues and helped like Michelle did. Our marriage did a 180 in less than 4 months. For a while, I avoided "real" conversations and after working with Michelle we are venturing back into deep real conversations and feel like high school sweethearts all over again, I'm just smitten with him. If you're looking for someone, I can't recommend her enough. It has seriously been life changing."
- Jackie M.

Coaching is about more than learning tools you forget the moment things get hard.

It’s about developing the awareness, capacity, and confidence to navigate your relationship when stress, conflict, or life transitions inevitably show up.

Marriage coaching is a 12-week journey where you’ll receive individualized support — both on your own and together as a couple — so the changes you make don’t just work in theory, but actually hold up in real life.

Whether you’re looking for clearer communication or deeper, more embodied change, coaching offers a supportive container to help you reconnect and strengthen your partnership through every stage of life — not just when things feel calm or easy.

After our time together, you can expect to:

- Navigate conflict with more ease and less escalation

- Feel more emotionally connected to yourself and your partner

- Understand your emotional responses and use them as information instead of obstacles

- Experience more lightness, warmth, and play in your relationship

- Show up as the loving, grounded, and engaged partner you want to be

- Feel at home in your marriage — supported, connected, and understood

• Self-Connection & Regulation

  We begin with your relationship to yourself.

  This includes developing awareness of what you need, how your emotions and nervous system respond under stress, and what helps you stay grounded when things feel hard. You’ll learn how to work with your emotions rather than fighting them, so you can lead yourself with clarity and steadiness instead of reactivity.

  This foundation supports personal responsibility without self-blame — and creates the internal safety required for real change.

• Intentional Communication

  From there, we focus on how you communicate — especially in moments that matter most.

  You’ll learn how to express yourself clearly and honestly without escalating conflict, and how to listen in a way that helps your partner feel safe enough to open up. The goal isn’t perfect communication, but conversations that feel productive, respectful, and connecting — even when you disagree.

  This is where understanding turns into collaboration.

• Aligned Partnership

  Finally, we bring this work into the relationship itself.

  We focus on how you show up as partners — navigating decisions together, supporting each other through stress, and co-creating a marriage that feels balanced and mutually supportive. Rather than trying to control or manage your partner’s behavior, the work centers on building trust, shared responsibility, and a sense of being on the same team.

  This is where connection deepens and the relationship starts to feel like a place you can both feel at home with each other.

"Michelle brought our relationship back from being almost nonexistent. In the day-to-day mess of life, it's easy to fall into a routine and she helped me to be more thoughtful about the parts that I was taking for granted. She helped me be intentional about what I wanted my relationship to look like and helped me to figure out steps that worked for my communication and lifestyle to get there.

Things had come to a head in my relationship, such that we needed outside assistance of some kind. I was experiencing communication issues with my spouse, volatile arguments, and we were growing apart. I barely liked my spouse anymore and I REALLY didn't like the way that we were interacting and how it made me feel.  It was unsustainable. I didn't want my kids to see this type of relationship as normal.

After working with Michelle, as a whole, I am more thoughtful and intentional about my interactions  - especially with my spouse - but it carries through to everyone. My husband has changed the way that he communicates with me when we disagree. He communicates more about underlying needs that are easier to act on.

It seemed impossible to enjoy being around my spouse again, but now we are enjoying each other’s company more and working together on problems instead of working against each other. There are still some bedrock items that we probably won't ever see eye-to-eye on but the WAY that we disagree about them is much more healthy and much less volatile.

I can truly say that working with Michelle has made my entire life better. She is so smart and thoughtful and kind. I feel like she always assumed the kindest motive in every interaction.

I never EVER felt she judged me or any part of my situation. She addressed every issue with such compassion and undivided attention. And for a person like me - who can sometimes be very inarticulate - she was always patient and provided helpful prompts. And I cannot appreciate enough that she never pretended to be perfect. I always felt like I could trust her because she is a real, flawed person.

I think everyone would benefit from working with Michelle!"
- Elisa G.

"I consider myself a very, very, self-reliant uber independent woman. We often would fight about the same. damn. thing. over and over. We both felt unappreciated and not valued.

Michelle came into the rescue while I was on a 2 hour drive from LA to San Diego. I have been to therapy before, but never to a relationship coach.

I feel very fortunate that Michelle found her calling to be there for women. I feel like I can share my skeletons, my fears, my dark thoughts and she wouldn't hold judgment. That is what you would want from a relationship coach. If you are a struggling with your relationship and feel like it is too much work to work on it, but you know that you can't give up, then Michelle is absolutely the right person to stand shoulder to shoulder with you and identifying areas that offers you new ways to look at a given situation."
- Annie V.

"What I love most about working with Michelle is that she is an EXCELLENT active listener. By that I mean, she is easy to talk to, listens without judgment, asks the right questions to really get down to the root of the problem, and encourages shifts in perspective. She helped me to see that every relationship is a two-way street, and while my husband may have things to work on, I must also do my part in order to make our marriage work. She guided me towards concrete steps of action, and held me accountable with check-ins. After conversations with her, I found myself reflecting on argument patterns, where I could improve my own communication skills in explicitly communicating my needs, and how I could help my husband communicate his. She helped me reframe negative situations as opportunities for growth, taught me conflict resolution skills, how to communicate with empathy, and to seek to understand first rather than be understood."
- Erika C.

"Coaching with Michelle was a life-changer for myself and my marriage! Much more goal-oriented, perspective-changing, and plan and progress-focused than any therapy or counseling I have ever engaged in."
- Michelle S.

"I originally sought out Michelle because I was running out of ideas on how to stay in my marriage. Initially, I was scared, but she made me feel safe and I was able to open up to her. After explaining my situation, she quickly uncovered the areas in my life that I needed to shed some light on; she was so on point I was speechless...Total mic drop! Michelle is without a doubt the perfect person to guide you in any stage of your marriage."
- Eileen M.

"My family is closer. My husband and I have been able to have more vulnerable discussions…and we are solving problems faster. Fewer disagreements…more loved…She’s amazing. Michelle is one of those people that you’re like “she was born for this.” She asks hard questions in such an amazingly inviting way. Get ready to change how you will forever look at issues. It’s like she unlocked this objective pathway for me to analyze problems."
- Melissa P.

Here are some other options:

- Marriage Communication Essentials (course) - Check out the framework I teach my private clients on how to navigate tough conversations and turn them into opportunities where you and your spouse can grow closer together rather than apart.

Investment: $99, purchase here!

- The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast - Listen to my podcast where I share many many insights and tips that can help you make progress in your relationship.

Tune in here!