The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast: Childproofing Your Marriage
Navigating the complexities of marriage post-children is a journey that many couples find themselves on, often without a clear roadmap.
In this episode on The Marriage and Motherhood Podcast, I am joined by Nevart Willborn, a therapist and fellow marriage coach.
In this episode we discuss the intricacies of child-proofing marriage.
The Vital First Step: Intent and Understanding
The journey towards reconnecting with your spouse post-kids begins with a fundamental step: expressing intention and understanding. We can not emphasize enough how important it is to be intentional about your relationship. Recognizing and articulating what you crave in your marriage sets the stage for meaningful improvement. Whether it’s dedicating time for a daily 10-second hug or sending a thoughtful text, these small acts of intention can significantly impact the quality of your connection.
Embracing Personal Growth and Self-Reflection
A recurring theme in our conversation is that personal growth and self-reflection are essential components of child-proofing your marriage. Understanding your triggers, expectations, and narratives brought into the relationship can illuminate the path to deeper connection. By getting curious about your responses and engaging your partner in open dialogue, you can foster a more accepting and understanding relationship dynamic.
The Power of Micro-Connections
Don't wait until you have a solid block of time to connect. There is deep significance in small, consistent gestures of affection and thoughtfulness that act as the glue holding your relationship together, especially during the busy seasons of parenting. These micro-connections, from holding hands during a casual walk to sharing a laugh over a shared memory, are the building blocks of a healthy and resilient marital connection.
Engaging Your Spouse in Joint Efforts
A pivotal aspect of child-proofing your marriage is engaging your spouse in the efforts collectively. Both partners need to nurture the marriage for it to succeed, however the impact of owning your part and inviting your spouse to participate actively is a great way to get your partner on board if they aren't yet. Initiating candid discussions about feelings and needs, or embarking on a digital course together, the act of joining forces to work on your marriage can be transformative. Don't be afraid to lead the charge, even if it seems like your partner is uninterested at the moment. You will be surprised by how influential your consistent actions can be once you focus on your actions and perspective on growing your marriage.
Reigniting the Spark in Your Marriage
For couples looking to reignite the spark in their marriage post-kids. Prioritize intentional communication, embrace flexibility in fulfilling each other’s needs, and consistently invest in those micro-connections, couples can navigate the journey of child-proofing their marriage with grace and resilience. Nurturing your relationship is the foundational bedrock upon which your family thrives.
In a world where the challenges of parenting often take center stage, the power of intentional effort, mutual understanding, and unwavering commitment in sustaining the vitality of marriage becomes essential.