Did you know we have 60,000 thoughts each and every day? If you were to stop and count how many times you were critical of yourself, would that be greater or less than the number of times you were kind to yourself?
I recently learned about the world of positive affirmations. Affirmations can be as simple as “I am patient” to something more complex like “I am a badass coach with a waiting list of ideal clients who would love to work with me” or “I am debt free and I travel 4x a year.”
If reading that was a little painful for you, I get it. I used to think this stuff was weird too. Saying things doesn’t mean they’ll come true. But, saying these things has shifted my perspective and my self love so much. Every morning, I write 3 positive affirmations and 3 things I’m grateful for. I went from thinking that this stuff was for people who had their head in the clouds, to being a true believer of it.
Ever since I started this practice, I noticed I became more aware of how critical of myself I was and my internal dialogue started to shift to be kinder and more accepting.
Instead of telling myself I can’t do something, I started to say I can’t do it YET. Just by sticking to the habit of writing out my affirmations, I have established a growth mindset. If I was particularly impatient with my kids, I would give myself grace and say, I’m doing my best and I can do better tomorrow instead of harp on myself about being the worst mother. Any of this hitting a cord with you?
I had to wrap my head around the idea that if I’m supposed to be my biggest fan, why am I talking down to myself so much? Would I take this crap from someone else? No! I wouldn’t tolerate that in any other relationship, so why am I staying in THIS toxic relationship? So, I said NO MORE. Something needs to change because nothing changes if nothing changes!
I have accepted that I am enough. On any given day, my best is enough. I am enough. Can you repeat that with me? Repeat it until you feel something and then say it again to cement it in.
When a baby is learning to walk, they don’t tell themselves “I’ve never walked before, so I won’t ever be able to.” No, they fall, get back up and keep trying. It’s our fear of failure or our fear of others noticing our failure, that stifles our growth. Let’s go back to being brave and persistent like we were when we were young. Babies have it ALL right. They speak up when something isn’t right, they love unconditionally, they are fearless, and they do whatever they want, when they want.
How can you be more like your former self so that you are more in tune with who you really are? If you could talk to your former self, what would you say to them?
As for me, I am starting to embrace fear. I look at it as a teacher. A teacher sharing with me what obstacles I need to address to plan for success. I will dream big and crawl until I have the muscles to walk, and then, I’m going to eventually run. Run towards my goals and reflect back on all the things I have overcome and tell myself, “I am enough” along the way.
What are some of your favorite affirmations?
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